Timi & Titi
3 years married
2 min read · Published March 8, 2026
“They brought deep grief and tested our strength as individuals and as a couple.
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This story has been edited for length and clarity.
When we first got married, I prioritized myself, my work, and my routines. Our conversations became very basic, things like “How are you?” or “Where is my food?”
We didn’t take time to truly share our days or connect. Over time, the lack of intimacy led to poor communication, and we simply continued with life without addressing it. During this period, we also experienced the painful loss of pregnancies, which became our lowest moments. They brought deep grief and tested our strength as individuals and as a couple.
The Turning Point
Those experiences made us realize how important communication, emotional connection, and intentional time together are in marriage. We decided to prioritize family devotions, create time to gist together, and discuss anything and everything. Also, we decided to go out once in a while to spend time together, like going to the cinema and restaurants. These small but deliberate efforts helped us reconnect, strengthen our communication, and rebuild the intimacy we had been missing.
Where We Are Now
Today, we are in a much better place. Our relationship is stronger because we have learned to be intentional about our marriage. We communicate more openly, support each other through challenges, and continue to prioritize time together.
For anyone going through a similar situation, my advice would be not to ignore the issues. Be intentional about reconnecting, pray together, communicate honestly, and make time for each other even when life feels busy. Small, consistent efforts can slowly rebuild intimacy and strengthen the relationship.
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